Tips for Letting go of a Loved One While Keeping Them Close to Your Heart

By: Tom Gallagher
Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Losing a loved one is a painful and an emotional time of your life. You are experiencing many different levels of grief as you work your way through your healing process. It is not an easy road to letting go and healing the pain that you feel. The healing process takes time, patience and an acceptance to move forward while grieving.

Having your loved one there with you for many years and then suddenly losing them is a traumatic experience that takes a toll on the body, mind, and soul. However, there are things you can do to work towards a healthy healing journey.

 

Understanding Grief

Unfortunately, there is no easy way to deal with the loss of a loved one and you are entitled to feeling exactly what you are going through. You must accept these emotions and realize that there is no right or wrong way to feel while you grieve. In fact, understanding the emotions you are feeling can bring clarity, allowing you to embrace these feelings and begin moving forward to heal.

You will grieve, and you will have the good and the bad days. Remember that this is natural and as time goes on and you learn how you grieve, personally, as an individual and you will begin to make process in a way that is right for you. Take your time and do it your way.

 

Cherish the Memories

During a trying time of the loss of a loved one, some may feel as if they need to get rid of any reminders of this person in order to move on and let go. They may get rid of old photos, gifts, clothing or anything that reminds them of their loved one because they believe it will eliminate tough moments when they see them. The truth is as time goes on and you begin healing you may regret getting rid of these special memories. Preserve the memories and hang on to them for at least a year, you may feel differently as time goes on.

 

Don’t Lose Yourself Along the Way

When you are going through a lot of different emotions and they are bringing on different feelings of sadness or anger, some may tend to try and numb the pain with alcohol, drug abuse, or simply caring less of their own welfare. They want to mask the pain they are feeling and avoid dealing with it instead. You have the right to grieve in your own way, although, the self-destructive behaviour will only hinder your grieving process and it will feel as if every step you take forward your taking ten back.

 

These behaviours are not part of the grieving process and the only way to move forward is to come clean with yourself about what you are going through and find ways within to heal while maintaining the memory that your loved one had of you before they passed.

If you have any other questions or would like to speak more about your grieving process, you can contact our professionals at Nutmeg State Cremation Society, here. We are happy to help and support you through this trying time. 

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