Steps to Writing a Eulogy

By: Tom Gallagher
Thursday, October 27, 2016

A eulogy is one of the main components to the funeral service. It is the time in which you will say a speech to the family and friends of a loved one and is a very special gift you are dedicating to the person they were. This is a chance for you to express how much this person meant to you, the impact they had on your life and the lives of the family and friends gathered, and also demonstrating a true reflection of who this person was.


Writing a eulogy can be a difficult speech to conduct as there are many words, stories, and memories you want to talk about, although you only have a small of amount of time to do so. Expressing a reflection of the life they lived can be challenging where there are so many great things you want to share.


Here are the steps to writing a eulogy that can guide you along the way, giving you structure and an outline to follow:


The Introduction: The intro to any speech begins by listing off your main message in a flowing and ordered way. Although you are not literally going to list them. Finding a way to express your message, which for example can be the most important trait this person represented or one word that explains who they were. Also, at this point of your speech, you will introduce yourself and the relationship you had to the deceased.


Body: In the body of the eulogy you will generally share three moments or stories that tie into your main point, in this case being faithful. Gather three stories you want to share and create some sort of flow to go from one to the other. Adding in any poems, quotes, or lyrics to give examples of how this story reflects your main message, is a good way to connect it back to this person and the moral of your speech.


Conclusion: As you come to the end of your speech and you have told all your stories or memories, you can begin to wrap things up and say your goodbye. Expressing how much you love and will miss your loved one and how much you know they loved everyone at the service is a good way to include the audience and create a sense of unity. Recite your main message to end things smoothly.


To prepare yourself for this speech, rehearse alone and also in front of your family or close friends and take any suggestions they may have into consideration. Remember to speak slowly and loudly so everyone can understand you and remember, it is okay to cry. This is an emotional day for you, but the gift of your speech is a special one and one that everyone will take a little part away with them when the service comes to an end.


If you have any questions or would like to speak to our professionals here at, Nutmeg State Cremation Society, you can contact us here.  

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